My Name is Alan. I grew up in farm country, have a height of about 5’11” and have weighed between 250 and 300 lbs since I was 16.
My first encounter with weight prejudice was when I joined the military. Their charts set my maximum weight at 190 lbs. I spent my entire time in the military on the “Fat Boy” program because of my weight. I was scoring outstanding on the sit-ups, push-ups and run; had a BF index of 20%, but failed at the weight chart. I left the military weighing 285 lbs.
Two years after leaving the military I suddenly started dropping off to sleep without warning in the middle of the day. This caused me to have two car accidents which prompted me to setup a doctors appointment. I had never seen this physician before but he had been recommended by my wife’s physician.
The nurses did the normal check-in of gather complaint, temperature, height, weight(265 lbs) and showed me to a room. I was a little confused because they didn’t do a BP yet. about 5 minutes later the doctor came in and asked “so besides your weight causing you to have fatigue, is anything else going on?” I was flabbergasted. I tried to explain that I had just started dropping off to sleep while in the middle of doing things for the last three months. He responded that this is not uncommon with my level of obesity. He ignored my statements that my weight was less than my last weighing when I left the military and my eating habits, and activity level hadn’t changed. He just continued to state that I needed to lose 40-50 lbs to be at a “safe” weight.
When I later was ranting about this to a group of friends, one of them commented that they had similar symptoms when their pillow was too fluffed because it caused sleep apnea. I stopped using a pillow that night and my symptoms vanished within 3 days.