It was interesting–and somewhat sad–to find your site. I also have a medical discrimination story. I am currently 33 years old, 255 lbs, and 5’9″. I exercise, eat fairly well, and have good blood pressure/cholesterol/blood sugar. Anyway, now that my vitals are out of the way, my ob/gyn diagnosed me as having PCOS after my TRAINER at my gym suggested I may have it. The gyn said that I really need to eat a low glycemic diet. (Of course, as is often the case, when this kind of advice is given out, that’s about the extent of the information). The doctor prescribed me Metformin. Fast forward to a few months later. I wanted to get more detailed information and also look for other possible hormonal problems because of family history and made an appointment with an endocrinologist. This was at a teaching hospital, so I was first seen by a very nice intern, and then by the well-regarded endocrinologist.
Literally within the first few minutes of seeing me, he suggested I might consider weight loss surgery. I was taken aback. Not only had I never had anyone suggest this to me, he did little to nothing to address my real issues, the reason I had come to see him. I spoke up, and said “I see no reason to take someone who is for the most part completely healthy and could remain healthy for a long time with weight only *possibly* causing problems and perform a surgery which could kill me and at the very least cause complications to my life.” He said “Well, people like you often can’t lose weight just by diet and exercise.” I responded that I would never ever consider it. The thing is, I work out, I eat well. I have no problem walking several miles or climbing stairs or hiking. Could I do better? Sure, couldn’t anyone? I am trying to lose weight, for myself, but to have someone so flippantly suggest surgery really angered me. I left the office and cried. Not because I was hurt, but because it upset me to have discrimination so blatant.
Other experiences I have had were more subtle. My physician mentioned the possibility of weight loss surgery as well. He tends to obsess a bit on diet and exercise with me, which has always bothered me, to the point that I have thought about changing doctors. What irritates me is that he doesn’t ask my friend, who is also a patient but a “normal” weight at ALL about what she eats or does for exercise (answer until just recently–eats candy, doesn’t exercise). When he asked me if I exercised, and I said yes, he asked “doing what and how often?” When I told him I worked out 3 times a week for about an hour doing cardio and/or weight lifting and walked a mile to the train station each day, he said “You really should work out every day, at at least 4 miles per hour.” What? I mean, doesn’t someone deserve some credit for trying? I’m sure running 10 miles a day would be great, but it’s simply not realistic for me. It’s more discouraging than anything.
Thanks for the site!