Ok, I am writing from France.
I cannot stand all the struggles I had to face to get a correct diagnosis for my ADHD.
I have a wonderful GP, she was instead the first one to suspect my ADHD when I was… two and a half ! Official diagnosis happened three years ago, at 23 years old.
Even if I am 1.52m for 42-43 kilos, she has never ever made fuss of it : “As long as you are pleased with eating, I don’t see any reason to worry about you”.
The only center for adults with ADHD in France was the hospital I was cared before. Indeed, stimulants can only be prescribed by a psychiatrist, a neurologist or a specialist in a sleep center, once a year.
In between, any doctor can renew the prescription. My GP renews my prescription, she keeps an eye to my weight even if she does not weigh me every time, the cardiologist does not absolutely worry about me (I saw her for the cardiac baseline and because I had two dry pericarditis : one month and a half in bed and aspirin, or it would had led to heart failure, she said. I can only say that she has never ever bully me because of anything, not even my ADHD behavior).
So, the first time I came, I was a bit thin because of a very bad stomach bug I had.
The psychiatrist, an ash-blond lady who always believes she is more beautiful than she actually is, told my mom and I that I am anorexic. She fits me to numerous appointments, RD, psychologist, blood work and so on.
The RD says that there is no reason to worry about any problem with my eating and that there is no reason that I weigh myself at home.
The psychologist says that there is no reason to worry about an ED because I have no pattern of thinking which would make think about an eating disorder. Yes, I suffer from hyperacousia due to a congenital Single Sided Deafness, yes I don’t easily stand noise, yes stress prevents me from swallowing (and it’s nothing new), but ED is something we can easily rule out with me.
Blood work did not reveal anything to worry about.
The psychiatrist accuses me of cheating at tests.
Then, she “informed” me that “deafness has no impact on socializing”. I beg your pardon ? Even a person with an intellectual disability or a low average intelligence can understand that not hearing well creates difficulties to socialize : in a few words, they are even more intelligent than that psychiatrist, who earned a medical degree in a Kinder egg (an Italian idiom, and yes, I speak Italian besides French and English. I can also say that I manage not too bad in Modern Greek. She said that someone who has a hearing impairment cannot be really able to learn foreign languages, therefore I can only pretend to speak foreign languages.
She scolded me to have been nearer to her because since I couldn’t hear her, I had to read lips. She scolded me telling me that I was not a socially competent person and a rude girl, and that my mother should kick me out of her home because I suck her money. WTH ??
She considered that my place was at shelter work for all my life and that there was no hope for lazy patients. OMG !!!!
At the end, while we were separating and I was crying like crazy, she considered useful to add that “I have other more deserving patients to care”.
I cannot report her to the medical board because she is perfectly capable to contact the seep center I am cared now (and it was difficult to convince them to take me) and do everything to make them turning me down from medical care.
The thing is that not many psychiatrists in France accept the diagnosis of ADHD for adults : how often did I hear that “it’s a diagnosis to excuse looser guys for their laziness and accept they pretend to suffer” ? Too often to count, unfortunately.
How often did I hear that “it’s a diagnosis to excuse parents for their refusing to take their responsibilities, Children Protective Services would had never allow such a failure to happen” ? Too often to count.
For my aunt, it was like normal (she worked as a nurse in psychiatry before retiring) until I brought the fact that there should be a “slight” problem *sight* if she thinks that such a behavior is unacceptable for a cardiologist but perfectly acceptable for a psychiatrist. She did not even know what to say. Thank God, at least someone who got it !!!!
On the same idea, a specialist in infectious disease considered that I can only lie on my age (I was 24 years old) and that if he made again all my education, such a failure would had never happen because only an absent father and incapable mother could had led to such a mistake of the nature.
It happened because I said “I don’t know” to a question he asked and that for him, it means that I couldn’t have a proper education from capable parents.
So, because I am short and thin, plus I suffer from ADHD, I have been considered by some doctors that I don’t even deserve to be alive. For them, I pretend to suffer, so I don’t deserve any form of medical care.
I sometimes feel that I don’t deserve being alive. It does not last, fortunately, and I am about to go back to university in order to earn a degree in law. In the meantime, I fight to receive adequate medical care.
Social Security did not create the mess. Contemptuous doctors did create such a mess. MD who consider they know everything, whereas they don’t, create such a situation. Can we hope for them to be treated the same way they treat their patients ?